Dear Ms. MKOC,
I'm about to head to the east coast for college and my girlfriend will be attending a local college here. What can we do to keep our relationship going? We've talked about webcam chats, calling everyday, and visiting during holidays. But what if we grow apart? How can we stop that from happening?
On the Other Side of the Country
Dear Other Side,
Maintaining a long distance relationship is tough, especially when the two of you are on opposite sides of the coast. Calling everyday, webcam chats, and holiday visits are all excellent ways to maintain communication. In college, you'll meet a wide variety of people, hear an array of opinions, and grow as an individual. It's inevitable that both you and your girlfriend will develop and mature into two very different people than you are today.
You may grow apart as a result of the differences or you may grow closer. I'm sure you're aware that long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain and most do end up breaking up. But a long distance relationship can be maintained and there are success stories to prove it. Love is like a butterfly, hold it too close and you'll crush it; too loose, and it'll fly away. Both of you will need to maintain a relationship that is neither too intrusive nor too casual to keep the romance alive. It wont be easy, but if the two of you are really right for each other, everything will happen as it's meant to be.
There is no right way to maintain a long distance relationship. Sometimes the distance helps you to realize that the person you're with is not right for you. And sometimes, the very opposite can happen. You realize that they're exactly what you need.